Just as no two marriages are exactly the same, neither are any two divorces. Children in different families may have various reactions when learning of their parents' plans to divorce. In fact, individual children within your own family may respond differently from one another as well. One of your kids may become a bit more reclusive than usual. Another may be quite vocal regarding how he or she feels about the situation.
Like most good parents in Illinois, you want to provide the love and support your children need to move on in life in as healthy a manner as possible. You also want to protect your rights as a parent and do what you believe is best for your children. When it comes to your new parenting plan, however, the court will have the final say. There's a lot you can do ahead of time to map out an agreement, such as discussing possible custody options with your soon-to-be former spouse.